"Releasing the Fizz: Helping Children Cope with Grief"

Grief can feel like the pressure building up in a 2 liter soda bottle. With every event and loss, the pressure increases, creating extra "Fizz." For children and teenagers who may not have developed coping mechanisms, losing a loved one can be especially devastating. As parents, we may feel helpless, but we have the power to support our children through grief and help them find their way towards healing.

The first step in supporting your child through grief is to create a safe and open environment where they feel comfortable expressing their emotions. Just like releasing the cap on a soda bottle, we need to let our children express their feelings without judgment or trying to "fix" things. Encourage them to talk about their emotions and let them know that it's okay to feel sad, angry, or confused.

Here are 8 steps parents can take to support their children and teenagers through grief:

  1. Be honest and use age-appropriate language to explain what has happened. Avoid euphemisms or phrases that may confuse or scare your child.

  2. Seek support from a therapist, support group, or religious leader to help you and your child cope. This can provide a safe space to talk about your feelings and offer guidance on how to support your child.

  3. Maintain routines as much as possible to provide a sense of stability during a time of upheaval. This can include sticking to regular mealtimes, bedtimes, and daily activities.

  4. Provide comfort through physical touch, spending quality time together, and engaging in activities your child enjoys.

  5. Encourage self-care by engaging in activities your child enjoys, getting enough sleep and exercise, and eating healthy foods.

  6. Address any fears or concerns your child may have. Reassure them that they are safe and loved, and provide answers to their questions as honestly as possible.

  7. Allow time for your child to grieve and heal in their own way. Be patient and understanding as they navigate this difficult time.

  8. Remember the person who has passed away by talking about them, sharing stories, and engaging in activities they enjoyed. This can help keep their memory alive and provide comfort to your child.

Jen, a mother who lost her husband suddenly, is an inspiring example of a parent doing the hard work to support her child through grief. Jen created a safe and supportive environment for her young son by encouraging him to talk about his feelings and providing comfort through physical touch and quality time together. She sought support from a therapist and support group, which helped her better understand her own grief and provide better support for her son. Jen also maintained their daily routines and encouraged self-care by taking her son on regular outings. Finally, Jen remembered her husband in positive ways, sharing stories and memories with her son, and engaging in activities that he enjoyed. By doing so, she helped her son to continue feeling connected to his father and to find comfort in his memory.

In conclusion, losing a loved one is never easy, but as parents, we can support our children through grief and help them find their way towards healing. By creating a safe and open environment, seeking support, maintaining routines, providing comfort, encouraging self-care, addressing fears and concerns, allowing time for grieving, and remembering the person who has passed away, we can help our children navigate this difficult time with love, understanding, and compassion. Just like releasing the pressure in a 2 liter soda bottle, these steps can help release the pressure of emotions and support our children in the grieving process.


"The Healing Team"