I'm a 15 and I'm struggling with my self-esteem.
I feel like I don't fit in with my friends or other students my age and I'm constantly comparing myself to others.
I see my friends succeeding and getting recognition for their talents and I feel like I'm just not good enough.
I don't know how to stop these negative thoughts and don't get me started on my confidence.
Can you help?
Thanks for your help,
Dear Insecure Teen,
It's common to feel insecure and experience negative self-talk, especially at your age.
But it's important to remember that everyone has their own unique talents and strengths.
One way to boost your self-esteem is by focusing on your own accomplishments and strengths, no matter how small they may seem to you.
Keep a gratitude journal and write down what you're proud of, what you enjoy doing, and what you're good at.
This will help you to focus on the positive aspects of yourself.
Another way is to challenge your negative thoughts by asking yourself whether they're based in reality or if they're just limiting beliefs. (Hint: 95% of our thoughts are not actually facts but are our opinions hiding as facts.)
If they're not based with factual evidence and reality, then reframe these thoughts and opinions into something more positive and empowering.
It's also important to surround yourself with positive and supportive people who appreciate and value you for who you are.
Seek out new friends and participate in activities that you enjoy.
Finally, know that it's okay to seek out professional help if you're feeling overwhelmed.
A therapist can provide you with tools and strategies to manage negative thoughts and improve your self-esteem.
I believe in you and I know that you have the strength and resilience to overcome this challenge.